This is the second part of the What Is The True Limit Of Your Potential? mini-series. For the continuity of thought, read the first post of the series here.
Turn key number three – Habits
I assume that at this stage you believe that your potential is limitless. If you don’t, just imagine for a while that it can.
I assume also that based on this “all is possible” mindset, you are able to define your dream life vision. Yes you can 🙂 Do it even for the sake of this exercise.
Now, if you want to go and see what’s in other rooms to decide if you want to stay there or not, you must move. You must take action. You must take steps.
And those steps you will make are steps in a process. Any process that you go through every single day. Actually, hundreds of them.
And they are called habits.
In short, your habits is what you habitually do. It’s how you behave.
Starting with waking up and brushing your teeth in the morning, through the way you deal with your work and your life, ending with your evening ritual when you go to sleep. Even further, because you have your sleeping habits, too.
Habits is actually the way that you communicate with the world around. It’s what you do (your habits) that manifests what you think (your mindset) and what you want (your vision).
Have you met a person with whom you saw discrepancy between what he said and what he did. What did you trust more? His words or his deeds? I bet, his deeds.
That’s the importance of habits.
Anyway, what you do (your habits) determines what you get (your results). The flow goes like this:
- What you think influences what you do.
- What you do influences what you get.
- What you get influences what you feel.
- And what you feel influences what you think.
The loop closes.
Now, you can see how you mindset (what you think) and your vision (what you want) influence your habits.
With limited mindset and limited vision, your habits will also be limited.
- If you think you cannot lose weight, you will not start exercising and eating well.
- If you don’t want to become financially independent, you will not be saving money.
- If you don’t care about quality time with your family, you will always find something else to do.
Now, if you want to turn your habits, with proper mindset and proper vision, the key question is:
What habits must I practice in order to realize my unlimited mindset vision?
- If I want to become such and such person, what habits (behaviours) does this person do that make him/her so?
- If I want to do this, what habits are related to that?
- If I want to have that, what repeated actions (habits) will lead me to allow me to afford that?
Warning! Answering those questions may lead you the conclusion that you must implement new habits and shift or eliminate a couple of your current ones.
Now, that you know that habits manifest to the external what you have in the internal, you can use them in two ways.
One. If you start behaving like a limitless person, you will become one.
Two. Your habits will measure and tell you how you do. If you can see your “limitless” habits work, cherish. If you don’t, there still some work to do.
Turn key number four – Skills
When you say that you “can” or “cannot” do something, besides mindset part that we talked about, the other one that comes to mind is skills.
Skills correspond to how well you can do something.
Again, skills can support or limit you.
For example, what is the way you think about your skills?
Can you speak Chinese? Probably you will say no. But, can you communicate with a Chinese? Here, you can imagine it is (to a certain level) possible.
The Chinese language is a tool. Communication is a skill. You see the difference?
If you do – of which I am sure – you continue to expand the boundaries of you potential. Something that looked one way a second ago, will look another way now. You see it another way. And that’s a skill, too.
There’s no one given set of skills that you must master in order to be able to achieve something. That would be limiting.
But there is one skill that I value most. And it opens many doors.
Hey, why limit ourselves? It can potentially open all the doors.
- You think to set your mind right.
- You think to define your vision.
- You think to design your habits.
- Finally, you think what skills you will need to move on.
See it like this. If your habits are steps that make your mindset and vision materialize, you must learn to make those steps. It’s a skill. Like walking.
And when you see a child learn to walk, you can see the struggle through which it goes. It’s a process of determination and constant improvement.
The child somehow knows (which is a higher level of belief) that:
- it can walk (it’s the mindset)
- it will walk (it’s the vision)
- it will practice it till it becomes automatic (it’s the habit)
- it is something it can learn (it’s the skill)
That is why …
- there’s no fear – “I am afraid” – because you know that even if the beginning is difficult, you will succeed at the end.
- there’s no lack of will – “I don’t feel like” – because your mindset and motivation does not allow such a thought and benefits at the end of the process are so grand.
- there’s no lack of ability – “I don’t know how” – because there is always a way to learn once you are committed. You just don’t know it, YET!
If you let it, sooner than later a child will penetrate every single room in the house, won’t it?
Then, imagine you tell a child to give up learning to walk.
Now, imagine you tell yourself to give up … whatever you will fill the blank with.
Why don’t we do that?
Now, that you know how it works, you will realize that there are many people that don’t follow this path.
The sad truth is that many of you that read this text, will not follow through either – which I write as a challenge to motivate you to show me I am wrong 🙂
Why does it happen?
There is a key to that. And it is called excuses.
I wrote once such a post:
Why is your intelligence to be measured by the number of excuses that you can generate not to do something you need to do?
Why can’t your intelligence be measured by at least one good reason that you will find to move on and do what you need to do right?
Why is making excuses so easy?
Because we have a small win of how great we are. We can rationalize our inaction. Which makes us feel great. The short-term perspective of instant satisfaction overshadows the long-term pain of loss.
And focusing on excuses instead of reasons is a mindset, too.
Shift your mindset, grow your vision, practice good habits and hone your skills.
Be Lucy 🙂
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